How To Invite Your Guy For A Sex Toy Adventure

Inviting your guy for a sex toy adventure can be a touchy subject ­– sometimes literally. What I’ve found is THAT in the gay world a lot of guys want to use erotic toys to spice up their sex lives, but don’t know how to ask or where to start. I think there are a lot of reasons for this. One of those reasons is that gay guys have this idea that they are already doing something pretty extreme – why add toys to the mix? However, this couldn’t be further from the truth. First of all, it can get way more extreme than you could ever imagine. Ever heard of pony play (google it)? Second of all, sex toys can really add a whole world of pleasure that you could ever imagine. A lot of “normal” people ask how we get pleasure by having butt sex all day. The first thing I tell them is that it’s not all about butt sex, but also blowjobs and fingering and much more. Plus, we guys were blessed with that magic pleasure button – the prostate.

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Here some ways you can invite your guy for some sex toy fun…

  1. Communication is key. First, talk to him before you bring up the fact that you want to put something inside his butt or that you want him to put something in yours. In fact, communication is the key to any relationship. When it comes to finding a way to bring up the fact that you want to use sex toys in the bedroom, you just have to do it. If you wait around to tell him or get shy, it will never happen. If it takes a shot of tequila to do it, then so be it – but build up the courage enough where you can ask about it with confidence. A gay boyfriend can smell weakness from a mile away and it isn’t coming from the dirty underwear hamper.
  2. Another option is to tell him when you are in bed. This can be a little bit like a safe zone. If you are comfortable with each other to be naked you are comfortable enough to ask each other if you want to use sex toys. What I recommend is that you have a few already on hand to share with him. Having an example ready will speed along the progress. For instance, the Silicon Prostate Probe is an excellent starter toy, because it is unassuming – it doesn’t look like a raging veiny black dildo – and it will feel great. Sometimes when you are trying to broach the subject of using erotic toys it helps to perform a live example.How To Invite Your Guy For A Sex Toy Adventure
  3. There is also the possibility of sexting him until somehow the question pops up. This could be a roundabout way of doing things, but it could work – just think about it. Things are already getting pretty hot and heavy in the text – what can you lose by saying that you want to jam a dildo in his asshole? I mean he could say no or he could just pass it off. Or if he likes the idea then you are totally in. Just go along with it. Ask him what kind of sex toys he likes. Does he like being tied up? Does he want something more gentle? Texts, like the bedroom, are a safe zone too, but mainly because you don’t have to talk or show your face. You’ve just got cold hard letters and words – sometimes numbers too.  Sexting is also just incredibly fun.
  4. Be straight with him – well not completely straight. This is communication, sure, but more stern than anything else. What if your relationship is getting a little cold and uninteresting and you feel like erotic toys are the only way to bring some heat back? This means that it’s time to have “the talk.” Just sit him down when he gets back from the gym, work, smoothie shop and tell him like it is. It might be wise to have a number of sex toys in your arsenal already laid out so that you two can choose together which ones to use. You could even have a number of cards, each with a sexy sexual favor that he can pick out and then incorporate a sex toy into each of them. That can be a great way for a gay couple to get used to the idea of sex toys.
  5. Lastly, if your man is the type of man that needs to be surprised to get into anything he’s never done before or is not comfortable with, you can always surprise him in bed with a toy. No talking, just doing. Having a few bedside tools ready and when you are in the midst of fooling around, just grab one and tell him what to do with it. He might be shocked, but what else can he do in that situation? You kind of put him in the predicament of forcing him to try something, but he’ll only say yes or no. Chances are that he will say yes and then he will actually like it. Score, your plan worked!

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When it comes to introducing sex toys into your relationship with your man, you have to get a little bit creative, especially if it is something you have wanted to do for a while now. Yet, at the end of the day, communication is always key. Chances are that it will be easier than you think.

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