The Secrets of Anal Sex

The Secrets of Anal Sex

There are a lot of myths and rumors about anal sex. Even a lot of gay men – especially those who have just gloriously jumped out of the closet – are confused about the whole butt sex thing. The truth is that there are some gay guys who don’t really get off on having sex. Some don’t even like to go near the butthole. Straight people, of course, think that we gays worship the butthole. As though every day at around four in the afternoon we put down a prayer rug and pray to the butthole. This simply is not true. Yet, there are a lot of gay guys who do enjoy butt sex – they don’t worship it, but they do like it – I mean, it’s really the only insertable natural orifice around our midsection that our kind can enjoy. However, the butthole is a sensitive place – not emotionally, but physically – butt sex can really hurt if it is done wrong. If it is done right, then tie me up and call me Sally, because it can really feel good.

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Here are the secrets of anal sex…

Know the butthole – love the butthole. Sometimes just knowing how the butthole operates can offer you a uniquely better anal sex experience. Sure, you know where the butthole is, but do you really know how it works in there? If you think about it, the anus is an extremely tight hole that is full of muscles and nerves that keep it lockjaw tight. You can only put so much in there at once without a big “yelp” or “ouch” coming from your partner – no matter how experienced he is. So, it might be wise to take a flashlight and explore your own anus or pick up an anatomy book. It is smart to know how big it is, how far back it goes and where the lovely prostate is, because that is your golden ticket to pleasure town.

Yes, hygiene is important. You don’t want to go down on a guy if he just finished “letting go” of some nachos he ate five hours earlier. Talk about gross. So, make sure that you are all cleaned up before you get it on with a guy. That means not only scrubbing your taint and around your butthole, but really getting in there and cleaning all the little details. You never know when a guy might dive right in and give you some analingus.

Butthole sex can hurt and pills are bad. You don’t want to take muscle relaxants or other stimulants to make your butthole looser. Most guys think this is the only way to reduce the pain of anal sex and to make it easier for insertion. Yes, anal sex is a little like losing your virginity over and over again, especially if you have a taste for men with enormous dongs. The secret, however, to reducing the pain and making it easier for insertion is to use lube – lots of it. Lube up your asshole and lube up his cock before it goes anywhere near your butthole. Lube up even if you are just playing with the tip.

Use a condom. If you don’t use a condom when you have anal sex, you are basically living in the Middle Ages. Not only is the anus one of the dirtiest parts of your body, it can also be a carrier of a lot of blood-borne diseases. The anus is also full of little nerves and capillaries that might break during sex and if you aren’t wearing a condom, you could get a pretty nasty STD. I know this is gross and you probably just lost your bone, but it’s true. Plus, condoms can make clean up a lot cleaner. You don’t need to worry about all the cum dripping out of your asshole and you don’t need to worry about finding a rag to wipe your man juice off his pectoral muscles.

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You could call these secrets or tips to anal sex, but you should also follow the above advice if you want to have amazing sex. Knowing what you are doing down there will also make you more confident in bed, which can make sex way hotter. Not to mention, knowing exactly what you are doing and what you like will make it a lot more pleasurable for both, or shall I say all parties.

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How To Invite Your Guy For A Sex Toy Adventure

Inviting your guy for a sex toy adventure can be a touchy subject ­– sometimes literally. What I’ve found is THAT in the gay world a lot of guys want to use erotic toys to spice up their sex lives, but don’t know how to ask or where to start. I think there are a lot of reasons for this. One of those reasons is that gay guys have this idea that they are already doing something pretty extreme – why add toys to the mix? However, this couldn’t be further from the truth. First of all, it can get way more extreme than you could ever imagine. Ever heard of pony play (google it)? Second of all, sex toys can really add a whole world of pleasure that you could ever imagine. A lot of “normal” people ask how we get pleasure by having butt sex all day. The first thing I tell them is that it’s not all about butt sex, but also blowjobs and fingering and much more. Plus, we guys were blessed with that magic pleasure button – the prostate.

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Here some ways you can invite your guy for some sex toy fun…

  1. Communication is key. First, talk to him before you bring up the fact that you want to put something inside his butt or that you want him to put something in yours. In fact, communication is the key to any relationship. When it comes to finding a way to bring up the fact that you want to use sex toys in the bedroom, you just have to do it. If you wait around to tell him or get shy, it will never happen. If it takes a shot of tequila to do it, then so be it – but build up the courage enough where you can ask about it with confidence. A gay boyfriend can smell weakness from a mile away and it isn’t coming from the dirty underwear hamper.
  2. Another option is to tell him when you are in bed. This can be a little bit like a safe zone. If you are comfortable with each other to be naked you are comfortable enough to ask each other if you want to use sex toys. What I recommend is that you have a few already on hand to share with him. Having an example ready will speed along the progress. For instance, the Silicon Prostate Probe is an excellent starter toy, because it is unassuming – it doesn’t look like a raging veiny black dildo – and it will feel great. Sometimes when you are trying to broach the subject of using erotic toys it helps to perform a live example.How To Invite Your Guy For A Sex Toy Adventure
  3. There is also the possibility of sexting him until somehow the question pops up. This could be a roundabout way of doing things, but it could work – just think about it. Things are already getting pretty hot and heavy in the text – what can you lose by saying that you want to jam a dildo in his asshole? I mean he could say no or he could just pass it off. Or if he likes the idea then you are totally in. Just go along with it. Ask him what kind of sex toys he likes. Does he like being tied up? Does he want something more gentle? Texts, like the bedroom, are a safe zone too, but mainly because you don’t have to talk or show your face. You’ve just got cold hard letters and words – sometimes numbers too.  Sexting is also just incredibly fun.
  4. Be straight with him – well not completely straight. This is communication, sure, but more stern than anything else. What if your relationship is getting a little cold and uninteresting and you feel like erotic toys are the only way to bring some heat back? This means that it’s time to have “the talk.” Just sit him down when he gets back from the gym, work, smoothie shop and tell him like it is. It might be wise to have a number of sex toys in your arsenal already laid out so that you two can choose together which ones to use. You could even have a number of cards, each with a sexy sexual favor that he can pick out and then incorporate a sex toy into each of them. That can be a great way for a gay couple to get used to the idea of sex toys.
  5. Lastly, if your man is the type of man that needs to be surprised to get into anything he’s never done before or is not comfortable with, you can always surprise him in bed with a toy. No talking, just doing. Having a few bedside tools ready and when you are in the midst of fooling around, just grab one and tell him what to do with it. He might be shocked, but what else can he do in that situation? You kind of put him in the predicament of forcing him to try something, but he’ll only say yes or no. Chances are that he will say yes and then he will actually like it. Score, your plan worked!

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When it comes to introducing sex toys into your relationship with your man, you have to get a little bit creative, especially if it is something you have wanted to do for a while now. Yet, at the end of the day, communication is always key. Chances are that it will be easier than you think.

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