10 Common Misconceptions About College Gays and Gay Sex

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Gay misconceptions are widely held, even among some gay people.

A lot of myths and falsehoods float around our society and color people’s judgement. If you’re a young gay guy who will be a freshman in college, or if you’re just interested in knowing some things about college gay life, please take time and read these common misconceptions.

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  1. A gay man who hasn’t tried sex with a woman, can’t claim he is gay. The logic behind this boggles the mind. No one asks straight men to sleep with a man to prove he’s not gay. You are who you are.
  2. Gay men are effeminate, flamboyant and promiscuous. Gay men come in all shades of masculinity. From flirty, fun, flamers to butch, muscle studs. Like straight people, there are many ways to express your individuality.
  3. College gays will try and trick straight guys into having sex. I’m sure this has happened in a few instances. But, the vast majority of gay guys just want to get off with other guys. If a straight guy sends the wrong signals or they gay misreads. Be cool. Move on. Trust, most gay guys aren’t obsessing over your D.
  4. All gay men have anal sex. This gay misconception is a big one. Not all gay men have anal sex. In fact, the majority of gay men do not have anal sex. Opting for oral sex or even a classy handjob, is just as nice.
  5. Gay men are only looking for sex, not a relationship. Nope. Although a lot of young gay men are looking to play the field in college, there are some who are looking for a meaningful relationships.
  6. All gay men are sluts and have tons of sex. Gay sex is incredible. So, can’t judge a guy who has a bunch of it. However, not all gay men are promiscuous. Some are even prudes!
  7. Gay sex is dirty. Our puritanical society tries to keep this one going. The logic is that ALL sex is dirty to begin with, and gay sex (a taboo) is even dirtier. There’s nothing dirty or wrong about it. And if people base this argument on the assumption that anal sex is gross, they’re ignorant.
  8. Gay men are obsessed with sex. What college student isn’t? You will find a lot of gay men thinking about sex a lot. But, so does everyone else. Gays think no more or less about sex than the average person.
  9. Gay men love drama. Like most college students, gay men just want to have fun and earn their degrees. The stereotypical drama queen, gay guy isn’t all gay guys. Some gay men may have an affinity for the theatrical, but an equal number prefer things chill.
  10. All the gay guys on campus know one another. There is no secret Coven of gay men. They don’t all know one another. More activist gays are going to know way more gay people because of networking and organizing. But, your average run-of-the-mill gay will not be able to name the entire 10% of the student body who is queer.

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There you have it! The most common misconceptions of gay college men and gay sex.

Real talk though, if you generalize about any community you’re being reductive. The gay community on campus will be diverse, with varied views. All communities that are marginalized benefit from open conversation and discourse. Open your mind. Forget what you thought you knew and live it from a first-hand perspective. You’ll navigate gay campus life just fine.

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Why We Love Gay Sex (And You Should, Too!)

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We at The Gay Frat love gay sex. Gay sex is better than straight sex because we know how to get down and dirty. Unlike our straight counterparts, we are more likely to embrace kinky sex or engage in a fetish. This openness to new and exciting opportunities in the sack, makes gay sex less traditional and vanilla. Screw that! We don’t want that boring-ass stuff! Life’s too short to not make the most of the sex we have. The gays understand this and incorporate all sorts of fun stuff into their sexy time.

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Here’s our top three reasons to love gay sex.

  1. Fetishes: Oh hey, feet! Oh hi, butt! Hi there, tickles! As far as gay fetishes go, there’s something for everyone. From enjoying multiple facials to engaging in some tickle torture, gay sex has always incorporated a variety of fetishes. When the straight people are blah! The gays are ah-ha! We don’t shy away from engaging in the fetishes that truly get us off. There are clubs, community groups and online forums exploring and fostering all of our deepest desires. Our most newly discovered fetish is wedgies. Yes, there are tons of gay men that love giving and getting wedgies. And, more power to them! Most gays aren’t going to discourage any of it. That’s just how we roll when it comes to gay sex.
  2. Kinky Sex: We love kinky gay sex! The more deviant the sex, the better. Although it’s not for everyone, it’s fun to explore how deep you want to go. Gay kinks can be as innocent as a slap on the ass while having sex or venture into some darker desires. BDSM, bondage, anonymous sex are all aspects of the gay sex experience and you can find safe ways to engage in all. Gay guys aren’t afraid to explore their wild side and let their freak flags fly. Leather bars, glory holes, as well as a myriad of apps to choose from, all allow you to explore the fringes of gay sex.
  3. Gay Sex Toys: We didn’t want to lump sex toys in with kinks or fetishes. They deserve a category all their own. Most of the sex toys marketed to straight people are based on gender. Meaning, this sex toy is for men OR this sex toy is for women. Because sex is between two men (usually), sex toys for gay men tend to be more fluid and allow for a completely different experience. We get the butt plugs, the prostate milkers, the anal beads, the cockring/anal plug duo! The gays are winning at gay sex toys. And, gay men are more likely than straight ones to purchase a sex toy. Open minds and bums, keep that gay sex game on point!

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We love gay sex! And, not just for functionality. We could have talked about how good men are at giving a blowjob or how great anal sex is. We could have gushed about how much better a hand job from another guy feels. Instead, we decided to focus a bit on the queerer aspects of gay sex. The acts and products that are operating a bit out of the mainstream. The “weirder” aspects of gay sex are what make it so lovely and so different. We at The Gay Frat get turned on by our kinky brothers, get wet for a fetish and thirst for gay sex toys.

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How To Have Tons Of Sex In Your Dorm And Not Get Caught

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You’re in college; you’re hot and ready to have the time of your life. You’re eager to screw all those hot dudes around campus. That guy you keep seeing eyeing your package at the gym, that hot nerd at the library who nibbles his pencil when you walk by, that footballer who has an ass that just don’t stop—what do all of these guys need? A good dicking down from you my friend. With all those eager men out there, you want to bury your bone in as many dudes as possible, right? There’s just one thing: you live in a dorm with a roommate. Can you say major cockblock? I know you moved out and thought that you’d be hooking up with guys left and right now that you’re mom and dad aren’t around. But, the reality is hooking up with a dude in a dorm is hard. I’ve got some expert tips (trust, I get dick like a pro) to help you make the most of a sticky situation.

First things first, are you out?

Have you come out to your roommate or other guys in your dorm? I’m not judging either way, but there are some aspects to being out that make gay sex easier. If you’re out to your roommate you won’t have to do any explaining if you accidentally get caught boning a guy. He’ll get it and it might be awkward, but it will lessen the shock. I recommend you coming out to your roomie if you feel comfortable enough. You never know, he might be bi-curious. College is the time to experiment! If you haven’t come out yet, that’s okay. You can always just use the friend excuse. Say to your roommate, “This is my friend from Chemistry. We’ve got an exam to study for. Can we have the room for about an hour?” That’ll get the room all freed up for you. Let’s just hope your roommate doesn’t walk in on you two doing the dirty.

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Timing is everything… Schedule some sexy time!

I know us gays like to have spontaneous sex, who doesn’t actually? It’s always way more fun to meet a random guy and hookup. But, if you have the option, scheduling with your roommate actually works out well. Let’s say you find a dude that want to bang your brains out later in the afternoon. Just see if you can arrange to have the dorm room all to yourself. You can be as vague or specific as you want, depending on how close you are with your roomie. Option 1: “I have a friend coming over later. Do you mind if I have the room for a little bit this afternoon?” Option 2: “This guy wants to bang my brains out. I want my brains banged out. Don’t you want me to be happy? Please don’t be around this afternoon.” Okay, so I admit that second option was more of a joke, but you get the point?

Scheduling isn’t just a matter of working this out in advance. It’s a good idea to know your roommate’s class schedule. You can duck into your room while he’s in class and get your ass reamed. He’ll never be the wiser. I do suggest you have a code tho. Which brings me to my next tip.

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All men should have a code.

This one is as old a trick as any. Dorm rooms and other shared spaces are finders-keepers and you and your roommate should understand this. It’s sort of a first-come-first-serve thing. If you have got a hot date and you get that hunk of man meat back to your dorm and your roommate’s not there. You better take advantage. I hang a sock on the outside door handle to let my roommate know I’m gagging on some cock or getting dick, in general. If he sees the sock on the handle, he should know the room is off limits. Be courteous and quick. You don’t want to keep your pal locked out all night. Also, respect his time if you come home to see a sock on the door. He respected your space, now you have to do the same.

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Finally, sneaking as a last resort

If you can avoid bringing a dude over while your roommate’s around you absolutely should. No one wants to hear you getting screwed while their trying to sleep. But, sometime you get a bit drink-y and you just need to fuck. Here’s the best way to sneak in and get a quickie. Take off as much of your clothing in the hall outside your dorm room as possible. If no one is around, strip naked. Bundle your clothes up and quietly open the door. If you’re roommate’s asleep, tiptoe over to the bed and don’t you dare laugh or talk. Gingerly climb into bed and spoon with your dude. No fancy doggy style or raunchy sex is allowed. You’ve got to keep quiet. Unwrap the condom(s) under the blanket and sheets to help muffle any sounds. If you absolutely need lube, be sure to use a lube with a pump, so it won’t make any squirting noises (this is my fav – Swiss Navy Waterbased Lube). Be quick and QUIET. No dirty talk or moaning. No matter how good it feels, do your best to not wake your roommate. You came a ton and you’re hearts begin to normalize. Now, don’t let that dude fall asleep. Kick him out. You can catch up later. Never let a guy stay the night. Dorm rooms are small enough; you don’t need another body taking up space in the morning.

Those are my top tips for hooking up in a dorm room. We all want tons of college sex!

I feel ya. Just be sure to communicate with your roommate and only sneak a guy in while your roommate is asleep, once or twice. It’s not cool. It’s hard enough finding the right time and place to hook up with guys. But, as gay men we have a couple of other obstacles to complicate the situation. I hope I’ve helped you figure out the best way to get your dick wet. Oh and did I mention, you can use these tips for jerking off. Yeah! You can schedule some alone time with your favorite giant dildo or to use your beloved stroker. Just make sure to hide your sex toys from your roomie. You don’t want him getting any ideas 😉 Onward and upward fratters!

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The Best Gay Sex Positions

The Best Gay Sex Positions

Many people think that we gays only have one sex position: hands on waist, doggy style. However, the truth is that we have many positions. Some of these positions are too hard to imagine for straight people, because they just can’t fathom the different ways our bodies can actually bend and move. While some positions are more pro than others – meaning you need to have been butt fucking for a long time – some are actually quite easy, fun and can make sex feel incredible. I wish I could list 100 gay sex positions, but I thought for the sake of your Internet attention span I’ll cut the list down to five.

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So, here they are, the best – or should I say my favorite – gay sex positions

  • The Crab. This is a unique position if the bottom really wants their prostate pounded good. In this position the bottom lies flat down his back and then the top – facing the bottom – lifts up the bottom’s leg and then inserts his cock. Basically, you want the bottom’s legs to look like two big crab legs on the attack. Perhaps saying anything about crabs is not a good reference, but that’s what it looks like. To make this position really feel amazing, the top has to hold up the bottom’s leg for a long time and the bottom has to be able to be comfortable with his leg in the air for a while – don’t worry you can switch legs once and a while.
  • The Bull. The bull is a pretty wild position because it’s going to take a lot of strength for both partners to pull it off. Also, this is one of the only positions where the bottom is on the top – if that makes any sense. Basically, you’ve got the top on the floor and the bottom sort of crouching into the top’s cock. The bottom is holding himself up with the strength of his arms while the top – who is lying down – is doing the thrusting. Basically, if you are trying to imagine this position on a straight couple – think of the cowgirl – I guess that was simple enough to say.
  • The Dog. I know this is the most classic anal sex position, but it is just so god darn good. This position is a little bit like the fast food of gay sex positions. It’s just so easy and quick. And anatomically it does make the most sense out of any other position. Plus, it feels good – both as a top and a bottom. I mean as a bottom you really get that good old prostate feeling you love and as a top it feels good to be on your knees with your cock inside of another man. It’s just magic.
  • The Mirror. This position is only to be tried by the toughest of sexual thrill seekers. It doesn’t hurt to be extremely flexible as well. This position is interesting, because the bottom is basically doing a crouch headstand of sorts while the top – standing up – does a pile drive with his cock into the bottom. Basically, whatever the top is doing is mirrored exactly by the bottom – hence the reason why they call it “the mirror.” This position is great for deep penetration – and I mean deep.
  • Missionary. This position is just so much fun to do when it comes to anal sex. For one, you get to be face to face with your partner. Secondly, you get to rub testicles together – I love being able to do that. Missionary is one of those positions most people don’t even think about when it comes to gay sex. They automatically think that this position is reserved for straight couples. I guess for most people it’s like seeing two lions have sex face to face – it’s weird because they’ve never even thought about it before. More than anything, though, this is a great position if you want to get intimate with your partner and express your love. With this position you get to do a lot of leg hugging and close kissing contact. I guess this is the perfect position for gay lovebirds.

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So there you have, all the best sex positions. There are, of course, hundreds more – maybe even thousands. There is even a Kama Sutra of gay sex positions. At the end of the day, however, it is important to find something that works for you and maybe that’s just good old fashion doggy style.

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