What To Do When You Have A Crush On Your Straight Roommate

Okay, so you’re about to start another year of college – la di da – and you are going to the campus a few weeks early to make sure everything is set up in your new apartment or dorm room.  You think: great, I’ll end up with another boring roommate and another 8 months of feeling really awkward going to sleep at night – another eight months of wondering if your new roommate is afraid of homosexuals – eight months of someone who doesn’t really speak English and has nothing in common with you. But just as you are about to confirm all your anticipations about your new roommate, it hits you: your new roommate is ridiculously hot and really nice. You then think to yourself: this could either turn out really badly, or, it could be the gay gods smiling down from heaven with their chiseled biceps and abs. The only problem: you don’t know if he is gay or not. He could be really cool until you come on to him. Should you? So many questions!

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Here is what to do when you have a crush on your straight roommate…

  • You come on to him and see what happens. This could go one of two ways: he gets really freaked, change rooms, and you never see him again, or, he is actually into it. Even if you don’t know if he’s gay, slowly coming on to him one night will confirm whether or not he is. Even if he isn’t gay, he might just be into experimenting. However, you want to be careful, because you don’t want to overstep your boundaries and lose a good friend. Yet, if you have nothing to lose, go for it. All that will probably happen – if he isn’t into it – is that he’ll tell you he isn’t gay and you can put your little crush to rest.
  • Just kiss him – what the hell, why not. This can be incredibly disastrous. You might get slapped in the face, but that could be a good thing, because he might be surprised and then keep kissing you. However, he might hit you and mean it. So, make sure to only make this move if you really pick up the signals. If you tune in and can’t pick up on any vibrations, you should probably keep your tongue in your mouth.
  • Ask him. This is by far the most polite way to ask if he’s gay. If your roommate doesn’t flat out come on to you, it can be hard to know unless you work up the bravery to ask. The worst that can happen is that he’ll say no. The best thing that can happen is that he will say yes. I recommend asking him within the first few days of being roommates, because it will be more of a neutral time and less awkward. I mean, it will be awkward, but not as awkward as asking him a few months down the line when you are all alone studying for a midterm.
  • Jump into bed with him one night. You know what can happen if you do this – all hell could break loose. But maybe you want it to break loose. Or do you? You might get a firm shove or he might throw you out of bed – that’s a sign that you’ve made a terrible mistake. Or he might just start madly making out with you and you will both thank that anonymous administrator that put you two strangers in the same room. Yet, this is one of the riskiest moves – extremely high stakes with a possible low return. I don’t recommend it.
  • Wait it out. This is probably the smartest move, but if something is meant to happen, it probably will. So, just be patient ­– even if something happens on the last day of school, you can thank yourself for waiting, and you can live always live together again next year. Or maybe, you’ll find that it’s easier to live separately while dating. Waiting is important because you want to pick up the cues first and you want to feel out the vibrations before you make a move or even bring it up. If it is meant to be, it is meant to be.

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When it comes to hooking up with your new hot roommate it is always better to be safe than sorry. You don’t want to offend anyone – especially someone that you have to live with. So make sure he is ready to hook up, or willing, before you do anything drastic. Although, you never know, college is a perfect time to experiment and you both might learn something.

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